"You are imperfect, and you're wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging."
- Brené Brown
Perfectionism comes from a place of fear - fear of not being good enough, not doing enough or that yucky place of shame that people will see the "real" you, or the countless mistakes you think you make. Perfectionism, over-achieving, and care-taking of others generally manifests itself in a childhood of chaos or function. Maybe not overtly, but there is a reason you feel compelled to take care of everyone else, to perform or be recognized for that performance and the fear of what will happen if others see that on the inside you may really feel insecure, unworthy or perhaps even feel like an imposter. As a woman who has been through her fair share of crap, I understand the inherent challenges and obstacles women face. I get that many women have to contend with outdated stereotypes, antiquated roles, unrealistic expectations – all of which can crush your soul, stifle your individuality and lead you down the dark road of people-pleasing perfectionism, to the detriment of your own bliss.
Low self-esteem, a lost sense of self or identity, low self-image, these are only a few struggles we have on a good day. I can help you find your worth, increase your self-loving capacity and embrace the life you deserve through a supportive, yet directive counselling approach. We will process the need to be ‘perfect’, to squelch your own voice, to do everything for everyone else without complaint or wanting for yourself. The ‘mom guilt,’ unrealistic body image, warped definitions of femininity.
For the record - when I say ‘women’ I mean ALL womxn: transwomen, Black or Indigenous Women of Colour, ciswomen, young women, or women young at heart. I am passionate about supporting you and empowering you to intentionally create the life you deserve.